INFJ at the Holidays?

Here is Linda´s great take on INFJ personality type in the Myers Briggs system and of HSPs (Highly Sensitive People) in general. Additionally to Linda´s I share a couple of links I have taken my own tests from. I am an ENFP though since for several years I´ve been in a much more introverted phase than I used to (always having needed time alone, too). I know in theory and practice that the basic personality type doesn´t disappear though we often go through other kinds of personality phases in life as well. (I have used another personality type/structure model as my first tool, which I know much deeper than Myers Briggs´).

https://www.16personalities.com/ (This link gives a good quick look at the types https://www.16personalities.com/personality-types )

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

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HAPPY SAG DAY! Today the sun entered Sagittarius and all is right in your world, right?

This was a pre-Christmas post, but I suspect it will be useful right about now. After I ran my Grief and Loss group today on the topic of coping with family and loss during the holidays and reflected on my current family drama, I realized that sometimes we need to recalibrate our boundaries and love ourselves more, not less.

Enjoy this re-tread and feel free to comment.

I was ready to dive into an astrology article including Taylor Swift, but she will have to shake it off just a little bit longer. I am sensing a need to write about how to navigate the holiday season with fun and a lot less drama. I have wanted to write about INFJs and HSPs ( Highly Sensitive People) for a while, and this seems to be the…

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Fifteen Common Defense Mechanisms by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

“In some areas of psychology (especially in psychodynamic theory), psychologists talk about “defense mechanisms” or manners in which we behave or think in certain ways to better protect or “defend” ourselves. Defense mechanisms are one way of looking at how people distance themselves from a full awareness of unpleasant thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Psychologists have categorized defense mechanisms based upon how primitive they are. The more primitive a defense mechanism, the less effective it works for a person over the long-term. However, more primitive defense mechanisms are usually very effective short-term, and hence are favored by many people and children especially (when such primitive defense mechanisms are first learned). Adults who don’t learn better ways of coping with stress or traumatic events in their lives will often resort to such primitive defense mechanisms as well.

Most defense mechanisms are fairly unconscious – that means most of us don’t realize we’re using them in the moment. Some types of psychotherapy can help a person become aware of what defense mechanisms they are using, how effective they are, and how to use less primitive and more effective mechanisms in the future.”

Here is the article: 15 Common Defense Mechanisms  /psychcentral.com  (click the blue title)

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Image:  chrisroll /freedigitalphotos.net

My Relationship with Tarots

GEM78_5Like so many others in this field of inner growth, I too have introduced myself with many different inspiring tools for self transformation, affirmation and inspiration. The tarots were not that obvious element to me at first.

Many, many years ago I received a wonderful tarot deck of Crystals & Gemstones (still my favorite one) as a gift from a friend. I loved the beautiful cards, but was not using them for a long time. Although I was aware of the phenomena of synchronicity, I had linked the tarots with superstition and old belief systems.

One day I finally began to play with them a bit, and soon I noticed that I repeatedly picked the same cards or the cards with similar kind of matching energy for the same questions. I also realized that with the ring finger of my left hand I could sense which card to pick (I already before this could sense the energies and the blocks of energy of human bodies with my hands when doing energy healing). I fetched books which had an updated view of tarot meanings, and began to blend my intuition and other knowledge and life skills with them. I found the books Tarot: Mirror of the Soul and Tarot Mirror of Your Relationships by Gerd Ziegler matching the closest in their communication style and with my own views of inner growth and life.

When I did readings to others when asked to (this was not my main job, and I don´t give individual session these days), I transmitted energy at the same time and assisted them via the tarots to connect with and trust their own intuition, inner self and soul as the main sources of wisdom. The main focus was on life skills, self knowledge, and on how to build and allow a happier, more satisfying life, and so on, rather than on predicting the future. The shorter the time period the more stable a future prediction can be, for it is already pretty much shaped by our past actions, beliefs, thinking… Even then we can always shift our perception of things (if needed), and we can also adjust our choosing. The future being fluid we can influence on it. So, on the longer run the predictions can alter in major ways. I think, that the best clairvoyants see the most possible one of the alternate futures, when predicting. That probable future can change on the longer run for instance because of our intentions, different choosing and/or inner growth. We have chosen certain things, people, growth paths and themes, and so on, before we have incarnated though, but even then there is space for free choosing of a plan C, F, B, ….

Tarots can be used in many kinds of creative ways. Playing with the tarots can also enhance one´s sense of magic in life. I noticed this to be so with others as well when doing these readings.

 

Images: Queen of Coins – Agate / The Tarot of crystals & Gemstones, My Tarot Card for June 2013

Queen of Coins from the Rider-Waite Tarot Deck /Wikipedia