♦ Boys, you must strive to find your own voice. Because the longer you wait to begin, the less likely you are to find it at all. Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Don’t be resigned to that. Break out!
♦ We don’t read and write poetry because it’s cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for. To quote from Whitman, “O me! O life!… of the questions of these recurring; of the endless trains of the faithless… of cities filled with the foolish; what good amid these, O me, O life?” Answer: that you are here; that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse; that the powerful play *goes on* and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be?
♦ [Keating stands on his desk]
Keating: Why do I stand up here? Anybody?
Dalton: To feel taller!
[Dings a bell with his foot]
Keating: Thank you for playing Mr. Dalton. I stand upon my desk to remind myself that we must constantly look at things in a different way.
♦ John Keating: There’s a time for daring and there’s a time for caution, and a wise man understands which is called for.
♦ John Keating: Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.
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Anchoring is a process that connects or anchors memory or other factors to a stimulus. The anchor or stimulus becomes the trigger to the anchored reaction. The anchor may not have any logical relation to the reaction that it is causing and the reaction may be adverse or beneficial. However, by using anchors, you can stimulate certain reactions in order to change your overall attitude and behavior toward a certain condition
The stimuli of touch, sight, sound, smell and taste are used in NLP to induce a desired state. This state is an experience or memory that you wish to access in order to create a representation that can transform your outlook into a more positive one. When the stimulus is activated, it evokes a state of mind containing specific thoughts and emotions. For example, hearing an old song may bring you back to your childhood or seeing an old house may remind you of how things were in your old neighborhood.
In NLP, anchoring becomes an effective tool, since you can associate the triggers with the state you wish to achieve. You can establish an anchor by creating a stimulus while simultaneously evoking the state you wish to achieve. For example, when a special person asks you to remember her then gives you a locket, then the locket becomes the trigger and the memory of the person becomes the resourceful state. The two are then so closely associated that whenever you look at the anchor (the locket,) you become reminded of the resourceful state or person who gave it to you.
Anchors can be visual, auditory or kinesthetic. These three modalities will be your tools in creating an image that can easily retrieve information from your memory to facilitate a response. It is useful to establish anchors, especially during moments of significant experiences, to improve your subjective and critical view of your environment.
1. Visual. Visual anchors can be external or internal. An external anchor makes use of what is really there to see while an internal one makes use of your imagination. A necklace which you can carry around all the time is an example of an external anchor. A mental image of your old home would be an internal anchor. Visual anchors can be anything that you can see such as shapes, objects, places, and people. This is why objects can possess sentimental value.
2. Auditory. This anchor can also be internal or external. What you can actually hear is an external anchor while a voice that you remember can be used as an internal anchor. Whistling or singing can help soothe your nerves when you feel anxious or restless. You can recall the voice of your mother humming a lullaby or comforting you and associate it with happy moments in your life to help you relax.
3. Kinesthetic. An example of an internal anchor would be to imagine your father’s handshake whenever you did something great. You can link this to the feeling of achievement or success. Some examples of external anchors would be to feel the fur of your dog as you hug him or running your hand through your loved one’s hair. You can link these feelings of touch with happy moments and memories.
Sajith is a certified NLP Master Practitioner and a certified Master Hypnotist.
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“Actually, subconscious mind is nothing but the “neural pathways” that have been established in your brain as result of your past beliefs and conditioning. During your unconscious existence, when you weren’t aware enough, you ended up imbibing a lot of limiting beliefs, negative conditioning and misguided perceptions about life, that you took to be “true” and hence believed in them enough to create strong neural pathways in your brain about them – causing these patterns of thought to become “subconscious”. Neural pathways are physical links, they are real and they are no different from a strong rope made from interweaving several layers of strings. Once you consciously see through a negativity, or a negative belief, within you, the neural pathway associated with that negativity will take time to come down, even when you are no longer supporting it consciously – it could well take a few months for a neural pathway, associated with a pattern of thought, to come down fully.” Read the whole article here at Calm Down Mind / Sen: http://www.calmdownmind.com/programming-your-subconscious-mind/
“With evidence growing that training the mind or inducing certain modes of consciousness can have positive health effects, researchers have sought to understand how these practices physically affect the body. A new study by researchers in Wisconsin, Spain, and France reports the first evidence of specific molecular changes in the body following a period of intensive mindfulness practice.”
I light up the candle,
it´s cozy and warm inside
In your renewing
darkness and cold
you give me shelter
oh, transforming November
I highly respect your depth,
how it embraces life
beyond the surface,
inviting me to
let go of the old burden,
oh, November bold,
the purpose of my life
is being told
and there it is:
this first crystalline snow flake,
clear, innocent and miraculous
like is the precious rebirth
of my authenticity,
never truly been lost,
This inner, eternal light
bright and wide and high
– Deelia 2013 / Soul Fields Blog ©
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And although self talk and positive thinking can appear to be the same thing, they are two different things. Positive thinking is something one generally does consciously, where as self talk is something that goes on automatically and without one having to think about it.
This could be something one notices during most moments in their life, or something they only become aware of during certain situations. In is during these situations that one knows exactly what self talk is and if it’s nurturing and kind it won’t be a problem. But if this talk is critical or abusive, it will cause all kinds of problems.Invisible
One of the reasons why it is hard to even notice this voice is because it could have been in full force for so long. And so it is not seen as an intruder and as something that doesn’t belong there, it is taken as normal.
It is the only thing one knows and therefore one has nothing to compare it with, in order to see how unhealthy this voice is. Without something to compare it with, one has no way of realising that it is not normal or healthy, it is abnormal and unhealthy.
Now, for someone people, their self talk could be fine and only bring them down on the odd occasion. And there will be others who are fine in some contexts and then ‘beat themselves up’ in others. One could also be in a position where their self talk is disempowering no matter where they are or what they are doing.
So there are many different types of self talk and these can be ones that uplift someone and make them feel relaxed, calm and at peace with themselves on one side of the spectrum. And on the other side, they could lead to one feeling worthless, useless and failure for instance.
While the voices in one’s head can create one set of problems, what adds to this are the feelings that appear as a result. One can then talk themselves into feeling a certain way. And when this process goes on out of one’s awareness, they could just end up feeling down and subdued without having any idea why.
It could something that happens so fast that one thinks it is due to an external reason. And while there could well be an external influence, it is often through how one talks to themselves as a result of what happened that made them feel as they do.
The impact of self talk is far and wide and something that could stop someone from doing many things. One could talk themselves out of going after their dream job or career. And when it comes to talking to some they are attracted to, they could end up talking themselves out of it and not once, but on every occasion.
One could have the desire to buy something or to treat themselves and end up going without what they both need and deserve. To get things wrong form time to time and to make mistakes is part of being human, but this can cause someone to see themselves as a failure.
It has been said that we won’t let others treat us any worse than we treat ourselves. While one can’t know how someone talks to themselves, they can see what they put up with and what they don’t.
So how they let others treat them and how they treat others, is one way of seeing how someone talks to themselves. And how one is spoken to by others can gradually be internalised and become a part of them. If this is positive and empowering it won’t be a problem, but if it’s not, then one could suffer if they are around this person for too long.
This then leads to the reasons why one would talk to themselves in this way in the first place. The kind of people one has spent their time with in their adult life can lead to a healthy inner voice and to an unhealthy one. But the primary influences will be how ones caregivers responded to them and to each other when they were younger.
During ones childhood they will have many, many moments of hearing their caregiver’s voices and come to accept their reactions and responses as normal. And if these early moments were filled with love, support and encouragement on most occasions, then one is likely to be fine.
But if one was around caregivers who were critical, judgmental or shaming in most cases or at certain moments, then one could have grown up to speak to themselves in the same way.
One of the main things here will be to notice what is going on in one’s mind and to start to observe what is taking place. This is the first stage and from here, change can take place. Fortunately self talk is not fixed and can be changed over time.
One way of doing this is to spend time with people who are supportive or loving and through being around them, one can internalise these new ways. And this could be a friend, coach, therapist or through listening to an audio book.
Another thing that might be necessary is to deal with the emotions and feelings that have been trapped in one’s body. Because even though one’s self talk can be trigger how they feel, it could be the other way around. So as one lets go of the feelings and emotions, the mind will also settle down as a result.
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I am enough for my life just as I am at each moment.
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“In some areas of psychology (especially in psychodynamic theory), psychologists talk about “defense mechanisms” or manners in which we behave or think in certain ways to better protect or “defend” ourselves. Defense mechanisms are one way of looking at how people distance themselves from a full awareness of unpleasant thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Psychologists have categorized defense mechanisms based upon how primitive they are. The more primitive a defense mechanism, the less effective it works for a person over the long-term. However, more primitive defense mechanisms are usually very effective short-term, and hence are favored by many people and children especially (when such primitive defense mechanisms are first learned). Adults who don’t learn better ways of coping with stress or traumatic events in their lives will often resort to such primitive defense mechanisms as well.
Most defense mechanisms are fairly unconscious – that means most of us don’t realize we’re using them in the moment. Some types of psychotherapy can help a person become aware of what defense mechanisms they are using, how effective they are, and how to use less primitive and more effective mechanisms in the future.”
Here is the article: 15 Common Defense Mechanisms /psychcentral.com (click the blue title)
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