Phenomenal Woman – Maya Angelou

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Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

– Maya Angelou

 

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Article: Programming Your Subconscious Mind by Sen

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“Actually, subconscious mind is nothing but the “neural pathways” that have been established in your brain as result of your past beliefs and conditioning. During your unconscious existence, when you weren’t aware enough, you ended up imbibing a lot of limiting beliefs, negative conditioning and misguided perceptions about life, that you took to be “true” and hence believed in them enough to create strong neural pathways in your brain about them – causing these patterns of thought to become “subconscious”. Neural pathways are physical links, they are real and they are no different from a strong rope made from interweaving several layers of strings. Once you consciously see through a negativity, or a negative belief, within you, the neural pathway associated with that negativity will take time to come down, even when you are no longer supporting it consciously – it could well take a few months for a neural pathway, associated with a pattern of thought, to come down fully.” Read the whole article here at Calm Down Mind / Sen: http://www.calmdownmind.com/programming-your-subconscious-mind/

 

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The Bliss of Self-Acceptance by Kate Corbin

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“Your only real problem is that you have forgotten who you are.” – A Course in Miracles

Once upon a time in meditation, I received a crystal clear message that I am absolutely and eternally wonderful; and the only problem I have ever had is not knowing that.

Really? The only problem I have ever had is not knowing I’m wonderful? Wow!

In that moment, I was freed from my lifetime belief that there was something wrong with me.

In that moment, I really understood that I could stop trying to fix myself because I wasn’t ever broken.

In that moment, along with the realization that I am absolutely and eternally wonderful, came the knowing that so is everyone else. Huge! Life changing! Blissful!

Over the next few weeks and months, as I settled into this joyful and empowering knowledge, I began to shift from a focus on self-improvement to a focus on self-acceptance.

From the age of about 19, I had been a self-improvement junkie. I read every book and took every course that promised to make me a better, happier person and to fix what was wrong with me.

But, for me, that lifelong commitment to self-improvement had been based on the belief that, if I just worked hard enough, I could overcome all the terrible things that were certainly wrong with me and finally become “good enough”.

Self-improvement driven by a belief in not being good enough is both endless and unfulfilling.

Imagine for a moment how it would feel to simply accept yourself – who you are, everything you’ve ever done or not done, how much you weigh, how much money you make – everything about yourself just the way you are.

There’s a fear, I know. You might be thinking it right now. It goes like this: “Well, if I really accept myself, won’t I lose all motivation to do anything and stop trying altogether and just live in my pajamas?” Nope! In fact, it’s exactly the opposite. Rather than zapping motivation, full self-acceptance actually frees energy and creativity and makes real self-improvement much easier and much more fun.

From the high vibration of self-acceptance:

* you’re aligned with Source, with Who You Really Are

* you’re a vibrational match to your desires

* you feel worthy and deserving

* you release judgment and fully accept others

* you broadcast a vibration that allows others to fully accept you

Transformational Process. If you’re willing to give self-acceptance a try, contemplate this prayer for 5 minutes a day for one week:

“Oh, God, show me the truth about myself, no matter how beautiful it is.” – Macrina Weiderkher

Do this process and, at the end of one week, you’ll be well on your way to feeling the relief, the high vibration, and the bliss of self-acceptance.

Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Coach and the creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her two ebooks – “Dining at the Cosmic Cafe, How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire” as well as “Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction” – are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Coach Kate, download a free copy of her ebook “Magical Musings on the Law of Attraction,” and subscribe to her ezine, visit Gold Star Coaching.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kate_Corbin

 

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Emotional Pain – To Heal It We Need to Acknowledge It, by Kai at wellbeingalignment.com

“Most of us were conditioned to believe that it isn’t okay to feel our feelings, especially the really strong emotions that threatened our caregivers’ world when we expressed them. So, sometimes unconsciously and with good intentions, they did whatever they could to influence us to bury the feelings.”

“As you begin to experience your emotional pain, remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you for having this wound. Even if your current experience was triggered by something in present time, the root of it is there because there was something that happened to you in the past that caused real, genuine pain. Therefore, it is normal, natural and HEALTHY for you to feel whatever it is that you feel.”

“You don’t need to figure out or decide what something means, whether it is something someone said or did or something you said or did, or a feeling you’re becoming aware of. Mental analysis diverts you off track and into the mind, which won’t be useful in acknowledging the emotional pain. Remember, our intention here is to acknowledge and feel the FEELING.”

Here you can read the whole article, which can be very helpful for emotional healing processes and affirming in general:

http://www.wellbeingalignment.com/emotional-pain.html

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Fifteen Common Defense Mechanisms by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

“In some areas of psychology (especially in psychodynamic theory), psychologists talk about “defense mechanisms” or manners in which we behave or think in certain ways to better protect or “defend” ourselves. Defense mechanisms are one way of looking at how people distance themselves from a full awareness of unpleasant thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Psychologists have categorized defense mechanisms based upon how primitive they are. The more primitive a defense mechanism, the less effective it works for a person over the long-term. However, more primitive defense mechanisms are usually very effective short-term, and hence are favored by many people and children especially (when such primitive defense mechanisms are first learned). Adults who don’t learn better ways of coping with stress or traumatic events in their lives will often resort to such primitive defense mechanisms as well.

Most defense mechanisms are fairly unconscious – that means most of us don’t realize we’re using them in the moment. Some types of psychotherapy can help a person become aware of what defense mechanisms they are using, how effective they are, and how to use less primitive and more effective mechanisms in the future.”

Here is the article: 15 Common Defense Mechanisms  /psychcentral.com  (click the blue title)

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